Tuesday, June 23, 2009

My Father....




They say time and tide waits for none......very rightly said. A year back , i lost my father after a prolonged coma...... and it was a difficult and a testing time for me....and believe me , it has not been easy , on the emotional front.....initially i had no time to spare for my self...too many things to attend to ....and when i had the time ....i was promptly called back to duty.......and was told that life has to go on......and that time would heal everything. I stuck on to this philosophy and before i knew routine took over my mental state......i moved on with the tide , though i missed him terribly, i missed his impatient phone calls asking my where abouts if i was ever late, his familiar figure sitting in the veranda, waiting for my return in the evening from dawki, i missed driving him for his monthly check ups.....for his hair cut......or sometimes just for a casual drive..... and very often i would remember what he taught me all his life.....the value of time....he was one person i saw who was never ever late in his whole life time......i learnt the art of discipline from him.....i learnt the word of honour from him......all valuable lessons for me.....the person i have been moulded into today..... days rolled into weeks and then into months and finally one year has passed.....we observed his first death anniversary and in the evening had kirtan for him.......and i realized time has moved on no doubt but memories are ever so fresh......does time really heal ?????

10 comments:

Lin said...

time does heal but it also helps to write down all your memories of your father to share with your children and grandchildren so they will appreciate his contributions to their heritage. I lost my father when I was five to an airplane accident and look forward to a reunion with him someday. I know he watches over me and is aware of my life and that gives me great comfort.

kavita said...

Nitu....i will always remember uncle as a very nice human being..your post brought back many good memories of him..

R. Ramesh said...

nitu
it was tough reading this post of yours dear friend...really tough...know well about dad-daughter bond...it's tough but all r forced to face the realities of life at various stages...

Patty said...

Time does heal, but sometimes it takes longer than a year. It took me two years to finally realize my sister had passed on, and only then because her husband was getting remarried. Memories no one can ever take away, and to make sure you don't forget some of the special ones, keep a diary called My Dad and every day or so write something about your father in the diary/journel that you want to make sure you remember or are able to pass on to anothr family member.

Rahul Viswanath said...

Sorry to hear that Nitu .... May his soul rest in peace !!!

Anonymous said...

am sorry to know this news nitu.... though late my heart felt condolence to you and family.

Anonymous said...

we can keep them alive by following what they taught us and passing it on to the younger ones and relating about our dad on the daily aspects what their views and experiences would be; it's upto us to keep them alive.

Anonymous said...

time does heal Nitu...
I am so sorry to hear about Uncle..
((((hugs)))))))

nituscorner said...

thanks to all my friends here for their words of comfort and encorougement.

suman said...

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some losses cant be mend.
we learn to live with the pain-for the sake of love
and we learn to live happily with it.